The ideals which have lighted me on my way and time after time given me new courage to face life cheerfully, have been Truth, Goodness, and Beauty. . . . The ordinary objects of human endeavour — property, outward success, luxury — have always seemed to me contemptible.

Albert Einstein

Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth.

Benjamin Disraeli

Chase after the truth like all hell and you’ll free yourself, even though you never touch its coattails

Clarence Darrow

The intuition of free will gives us the truth.
Corliss Lamont

There is nothing to fear except the persistent refusal to find out the truth, the persistent refusal to analyze the causes of happenings.

Dorothy Thompson

Inspired from Mahatma Gandhiji’s Autobiography ‘The Story of My Experiments with Truth’, I decided to speak nothing but truth for a month and here is my experience.

I was highly inspired by Gandhiji’s autobiography. I didn’t know how the experiment would be, but I said ‘Heck, It would be fun to try it and see how far I can go.” I liked the part where I read it gives you immense power and accelerates your growth. What I was going to experience was something I never imagined.

What I decided to do?

I decide to be 100% honest; I actually mean 100% honesty! It may look easy but it’s not that easy. In this experience I found it very difficult to be completely honest, but somehow I did it. Anything that you honestly feel should be spoken. Any review or any part of your life is asked, you should honestly answer them. It also includes speaking about your most embarrassing movement’s or any truth even about your darkest life experience to be shared openly. Even when it’s asked in front of one or ten’s of people. No exceptions!

My Experience

It was one heck of an experience; my friends actually felt I finally went overboard with this experiment. Here’s how it started. Many of us have the habit of sharing one part of your life with one person and sharing the other part of your life with the other. The first feeling I had was being vulnerable. It’s strange that when we keep a certain piece of information with you or with very closed ones you have a sense of shield with you. It’s a shield which we create to protect us from other people’s judgment. We all have our good and bad deed’s, we also have reasons to justify our actions. Sometime’s it maybe a clear instance of our emotions taking our logic and we do things we don’t want to do. But no matter what, most of them hide to keep the social rep. I started feeling that my shield is going down, I am becoming more open and it’s definitely going to struck hard this time. I felt this experiment is definitely not as easy as I thought. I started being very honest about my opinions, this always lead to questions about my personal life and when I started saying them openly, the shield’s went down and I became open to the critics.

Here’s a small example. I have a belief that there is no such thing as being patriotic. I believe all humans whether they are from my country or not, all are humans. They all are equal. I believe in humanity more than the national border’s. I love my country and very proud of it. But I am proud about humanity as a whole than anything else. I know this belief contrast with many people out there. I was not able to understand, that if our soldier’s kill other soldier’s they are heroes and If other soldier’s kill our soldiers then they are enemies. I agree we need defense forces to protect us from terrorists and many other countries who may try to attack us. My belief is not just about my country but every country in the world. The concept of patriotism and national border’s has in many ways stopped us from being united all across the world. When we say ‘my country is greatest in the world’ we completely ignore the good in other countries. Thanks to the internet and globalization, the world is coming together. Now on the topic, I have friends who are very patriotic. When one of my opinions was asked, I completely pressed my opinion I believed in. Some were open for discussion while some were just ignorant. They told me stories about great heroes who died so we could live a better life. I genuinely agreed with them and salute those great heroes, but my point was about how the whole ‘my country’ & ‘your country’ concept were flawed. There are good and bad people in every country. There were many who didn’t like my view and many who told me they thought the same. I felt connected to those who shared my view and felt completely detached from those who didn’t. I got a feeling of ‘I care a damn’.

There were hundred’s of such controversial talks about personal views, relationships, achievements etc.

The second part of the experiment started here. The sense of being powerful and carefree. When you say things honestly, you polarize people. Some will come near and some go far. Those who you feel connected, the bond gets stronger. The good part about the experiment is that you eliminate most of the social fluff; you become more confident because you’re following nothing but truth. It makes you feel very connected to people. When you’re 100% honest to someone, even they become honest to you about their feelings and opinions. The shield’s go down! This builds great connections. It’s like once we had a class and when the professor explained a difficult calculus problem, the whole class was saying ‘yes, we understood’ after the class I said to a guy, ‘I didn’t understood anything’ and he said ‘Neither, do I. I just said ‘yes’ because everyone did!’ I remember that making connection with people become so easy, like its just 10 minutes you met someone and you start talking about the deepest issues like love, vision, purpose of life etc. Builds strong connections with people on the level of soul. It’s a wonderful experience. The other benefit is criticism; the more people criticize you about your habits or views, the more you think over them and improve. You started growing very fast, because now you cannot hide them, you have to improve or face criticism. The only easy option is growth. It’s a strange feeling like you had one set of parents earlier who teach you what is good and bad but now you have everyone out there giving hundred’s of opinion or offering criticism. If taken positively, it’s accelerated growth experience. It’s amazing how in this process we come face to face with exact fears we are not ready to face. Like say I give an opinion on improving finance, one would ask me where I am on financial level currently. I would answer honestly and it quickly turns my mind on improving my finance. Not to show someone, but for me to understand whether I am on the right path to gain financial abundance.

The best part is you feel complete freedom of thoughts; you don’t have anything to hide, so nothing worries you. The great connections you build and the accelerated growth are amazing.

It was wonderful, but I stopped the experiment. Here’s why?

There is a bad part about the experiment I found. You stop caring about people completely. You are so attached to the principle of truth that you don’t care about opinions of other. You stay open to new ideas and humbly accept your mistake, if there is one. But if you get no justification, you completely discard the person as ignorant or dishonest. The bad part surfaces when you get completely blunt, you may say some truth which hurt others. Say a friend comes to you in a bad mood and say’s he hates his life because his finance is not good. And you bluntly say to him it’s only his laziness and he’s a real looser because he has no motivation in life, or a purpose in life. You may even tell him that he completely emulates his dad and that’s the exact reason he is like that’ Boom! You spoke the truth, but what affect did the statement have on him? If he’s a person who take the statement positively, it’s a wonderful growth opportunity. But this rarely happens because people may either get defensive or depressed depending on their personality. Your statements may completely discourage them. It’s a feeling which takes you away from love. You feel completely disconnected to those who cannot take truth as it is.

The solution is to experiment truth with love. Always speak the truth; you will help the other person. But say it with a genuine attitude of helping the person and not just utter bluntness. Truth can be used for the good or the bad; it depends on how you say it, your intentions and in what conditions.

Just a small example:

A girl asks “Am I fat?”

Truth with bluntness: “You are a pig!”

Truth with love: “You’re a bit overweight, go for gym and read this book on healthy diet.”

Both the statement says the same, but has different intentions and effects.

Humans are not robots, they have feelings and words have deep impact either positively or negatively. This would also make you 99% honest, rather than 100% honest. But it’s a good place.

I finally stopped the experiment in a month, but would definitely try it sometimes with Truth and Love induced!

We know the truth, not only by the reason, but also by the heart.

Blaise Pascal

I wrote a post about Types of Love, Many of my friends asked me to write in-depth about Unconditional love, so here it goes.

What is Unconditional Love?

Let’s first understand what is unconditional love? In Unconditional love you accept your soul mate as it is. Accepting there strength and weakness. Unconditional gives you real happiness for every smile and joy you bring to your partner without the condition of them loving you back or acting as per any of your conditions. There are many things which differ Unconditional love from Puppet love. Unconditional love is possible only by a confident and courageous person. You never loose your sense of self, Ethics, principle or purpose of life for the sake of a partner. Neither you act nor do anything which makes you feel bad about yourself. Your relationship shouldn’t be your only thing in life. It’s an important part of your life, but not LIFE. You believe in yourself and trust yourself and not seeking happiness in a relationship but seek happiness within you. Only a self content and happy person can share love and give happiness to others. You should be enjoying your life. Go to that gaming zone and bust some evil game boss. Play football or shoot hoops with buddies. go take a visit to a spa with friends. Do anything that’s fun for you. Follow your goals with gusto. Be passionate about your life. Relationship’s are about sharing love not just getting it. Life should be fun!

What about the need of someone you love? What if you ‘get’ them or you don’t?

In Unconditional love, there is no ego. Easy to say, but a difficult to follow principle. In unconditional love you get happiness from within you and not just the partner. The thing that makes you wild and feel unconditional love is making your partner happy. Say you’re dumped or in a one side love, where you don’t get love back. Do you really think it makes a difference? You love to be with your partner, but keeping your partner happy makes you happier. If they are happy with or without you, you still feel happy for them. You feel you have attained happiness in your partner’s happiness. This doesn’t mean you stop enjoying your life. There would be some pain, but it’s a big deal only if you make one. Remember love is an unlimited resource; there is no limit to love. Some wonderful quote’s.

One’s first love is always perfect until one meets one’s second love.

Elizabeth Aston, The Exploits & Adventures of Miss Alethea Darcy, 2005

To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.

Bertrand Russell (1872 – 1970), Marriage and Morals (1929) ch. 19

The world is always filled with wonderful people. It also helps you leave abusive relationships or those everything comfortable love, where there is only comfort and no passion of love.

Enjoying Unconditional love!

The best part about unconditional love is that there is no controlling part. No jealousy, coz there is no reason to be jealous. You don’t want your partner to act in a certain way or the other. You obviously encourage your partner to pursue there dreams and goals. Also teach them anything which could be a growing experience for them. But it’s from a genuine helping mindset with no mind games. It should be from heart! If they burp, you should obviously tell him/her to avoid it

This also helps you avoid the biggest mistake of making your relationship the only #1 priority in your life. Two people who can do something more then write poems 24/7 or stay together the whole day can bring a lot to the relationship. One should understand life is a journey to be enjoyed and not a destination. Love is to be enjoyed, not a possession to keep. Love yourself too and don’t make the relationship boring. You can keep the passion alive only if you do something more than just loving each other and loosing the real ‘you’.

Dive head first and deep in love and enjoy every moment of it, but don’t make it an obstacle in your life growth. Make it an inspiration, a source of positive energy to tackle every challenge of life. Relationship or infact, any of your decision should not be a battle between Heart and Mind. They always go together, and then you’re on a right path. Write a poem for the loved one, but don’t forget to clean the garage!

Do people fight over anything in unconditional love?

Yes, they do. Disagreements are a part of every relationship. How we tackle them are the key to long lasting relationships. When a disagreement happens over big things, every person reacts by their personality. Some may be dramatic and like to throw everything they have around them. Some would give a lion’s glare. Some may give a silent treatment. Some wouldn’t do anything, not even talk about it and try to ignore it completely, which leads to resentment later. Some may just call it off! All these screenplay make wonderful movies, but not long lasting relationships. The best way to tackle them is being honest to your partner about your feelings. Tell them what you don’t like. Listen to there reasons with an open mind and together make a decision. Make a sweet compromise which is a win-win situation for both. Say you like to spend a holiday going for a Comedy club and your partner want to sit at home and watch a Movie. Why not do both. Or do it alternately. Say you both are completely contrasted, you want to go play some sport with buddies and she want to go shopping. Create a solution. You can go shoot hoops with buddies and she can go with her friends for shopping. And then take a dinner together at some fancy restaurant. Create solutions, don’t just say ‘you get a new boyfriend and I’ll make a new girlfriend who likes football’

When to breakup?

A muddy topic, but to give justice to this article I’ll have to get my hands dirty. Breakup has to be the last stage, but it’s necessary under certain conditions.

1. Conditional egoistic love

2. Abusive relationship

3. Cheating

4. Drug abuse, Self-Destructive Addictions etc

5. Heavy Incompatibility

Now, before coming to conclusion for any of the above reason. Remember, People make mistakes, if they feel genuinely sorry for there mistake you should consider forgiveness. Though you should do it, only if you’re 100% comfortable to forgive someone and you are sure that it won’t be repeated or you won’t make the other person guilty for it day and night. Any incompatibility should be tried to resolve first. Problems should be discussed with honesty and love. These problems happen usually when one person loves the other unconditionally and the other doesn’t. Or sometimes, they could be unintentional due to social conditioning. Breaking up with someone doesn’t mean you don’t love them, but there is a bigger priority in your life of growth and honesty to self. To feel good and be happy in your life. If there is inconsistency with your principles, it’s probably time to leave saying ‘Good bye with love’. It would be painful, but a growing experience for both. And don’t breakup coz your partner didn’t cut his nails

Last Words:

Don’t get too worked up for having a perfect relationship. There is no perfect relationship, simply create perfect moments. Relationships can be a roller coaster ride, but it’s fun and adventurous. It gives you happiness. Not laughing 24/7 but a deep sense on inner joy and peace. One of the most amazing experience of life. It would also change the way you connect with others. It’s a lense which make this world beautiful. Love is about letting emotions flow and avoid thinking too much about it. Enjoy it!

By the way, don’t keep more than one soul mate of unconditional love; you may land in trouble

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”

Winston Churchill

“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours”

Swedish Proverb

“A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.”

Herm Albright

Thoughts flow in our mind all the time. There are thousands or lacks of thoughts generating in your mind everyday. Positive thoughts are the type of thoughts which give you happiness. Having positive thoughts enable you to overcome all the fears and take action to pursue your goals. Obviously, it creates an enriching life of fulfillment.

So how do we generate a positive mindset? that is we make sure positive thoughts flow in your mind. Seeking opportunities and achieve them with positivity.

There are two steps to be followed.

1. Resolving Negative thoughts:

Say a negative thought comes to your mind, probably a fear based thought. Fear is a wonderful marking scheme; it would show you exactly the parts of your life you need to grow. You probably made a goal and now don’t know whether it would be possible to achieve it. Try to be more aware, see where the fear takes you. Try to find the truth in those fears. Ask question like “Why I have this fear?” “Is it because there is a flaw in my plans?” “Is it because I think I don’t have the capabilities to follow my plans and achieve this goal?” Write them on a paper and answer them! Create solutions for it, like if my plans are flawed, how I can make them more perfect. If I don’t have the capabilities, then train myself with more knowledge or get a mentor to teach me. Should I make a smaller goal and try to achieve it first? Make your plan with all the details you need. You’ll see that most of your fear evaporates and generate a positive feeling within you.

But what about those imaginary fears which generate negative thoughts? That’s where the step 2 comes in.

2. Generating positive thoughts:

Most of us have imaginary fears which become an obstacle in achieving our goals. Say you’re planning to give a speech and you fear it soooo much, just because of those imaginary fears. Like What If I forgot my lines, what If I slipped on stage or probably what If there is a wardrobe malfunction?

These fears have no truth in them. But they exist only because of our social conditioning or past experiences or worse, analyzing the experience of others who failed.

This could be tackled by generating confidence and positivity from within.

Let me give you a personal example. There was a festival in my college. There were auditions for anchoring (Hosting) the show. I really wanted to get selected for hosting. I had no experience of anchoring a show, I did give speeches and presentation in schools, but they were highly formal and structured. The anchoring I was supposed to do for “War of Dj’s” Event was most of spontantaneous. My first struggle was to get selected for anchoring. There were around 35-40 participants and only 6 were going to be selected. To make things worse, they wanted to choose 3 guys and there were around 25 guys in participants. My success ratio was 3/25. Further, they brought around 100 seniors from our college as a demo audience and all instructed to create trouble for anchors during auditions. Myself and one of my friend went in for auditions. The audience were real trouble makers. After seeing them my friend decided to quit without even appearing for it. I was adamant about going for selections, no matter what. But I had my fears too. There were many participants who were very qualified then me with their past experiences in anchoring. I decided to go for it. They gave us a few quotes and told us to prepare an intro for the event based on the quotes. After receiving the quotes I went out of the audition hall, created my intro speech. It was not much difficult for me. The difficult part was to delivering it with gusto and confidence. I went to my group of friends and made them my small audience in the front lobby of my college. It’s a place where many students and professors come and go. I had around 30 minutes to train myself and I knew the place would be perfect too. I started my speech. The first time, I said it with lots of mistakes. I learned again perfectly and delivered again. It was good, but there was no passion. I tossed my speech and decide to Do it my way! This time I came in my natural state and delivered the speech, but not word to word. I simply started enjoying the flow. The constant feedback from my friends helped me. Many people in the lobby stopped to hear my intro speech and gave me some guidance. There was also one professor who gave me some guidelines like not to pull the letter ’s’ and make my speech more clear. It’s strange sometime how strangers come to help you, if you have the desire to learn. By the end of 30 minutes I had enough confidence to go for it. I was feeling very confident. I went to the audition hall, waiting for my turn. OOps! The crowd there was really troublesome for the participant anchors. During the audition they would sing so unrelated random songs to disturb the participants (For those who know, the song they sang was “chaddi pehen ke phul khila hai”) Duh! One of the girl actually cried and left the stage. That’s where my confidence stumbled. I started having those Imaginary fears. Can I do it? Would I make it? How should I tackle that audience? I had to tackle these feelings and thoughts anyhow. I started programming my mind. I remembered how many times as a child I had fear of ghosts and then my mom use to say those were imaginary, to trust the one above us all. He would protect us. To trust, that she would love me unconditionally, no matter what. I convinced myself that all these fears were just imaginary. I tackled it with imagination! I could actually see angels cheering me I saw all my friends cheering me by Imagination, as they were not allowed in audition hall. I saw my mom repeating words like “I know, you can do it”. I saw my school teachers saying me “Dhaval, with hard work and persistence, you can achieve anything you set your mind too”. I started feeling the energy of the audition hall; I started emitting the positivity (I’ll write a post later on how to get these feeling). My turn came and I went to the stage. I make my face amazingly, so people never know what’s going on my mind. Though my legs were shaking. The first thing I did after going to stage was to give a BIG smile to everyone. I actually felt like giving ‘love’ energy to all out there. Giving a long smile made me highly confident. It made me feel connected to them. I was enjoying the attention of hundred’s on me. It was awesome! The feeling of passion took over and I started the intro. I engaged the crowd during the speech in shouts of Hip! Hip! Said by me and Hurray! By the audience. This was not planned but I think I did it to make the crowd forget about singing songs and getting them engaged with me. It worked! I gave my speech with so much passion that when I finished I was surprised myself about how I pulled it off! The crowd cheering all the way. It was like someone just took over me while I was on the stage. The experience was amazing. I got selected. The next time I did during the event was easy as I already had the experience.

Listening inspiring songs and reading inspiring stuff always help during these situations. Before your big task, I would suggest to go for Neuro Linguistic Programming. I had this habit from childhood, but didn’t know what it was called. A part of it is where you listen to your favorite song, close your eyes and visualize yourself making that big speech successfully! See you smiling and enjoying the task. You could also do it for long term goals, by visualizing you achieved your goal.

Some Tips for making your day positive:

1. Eat healthy! Your Diet plays a large role in your energy levels.

2. Keep a gratitude diary where you daily express your gratitude for the wonderful things you have.

3. Neuro Linguistic programming

4. Keeping a gratitude stone also works for some. You keep a small roundish stone in your pocket. And rub it whenever you want to feel positive. It’s not logical, but you’ll be surprised by the amazing feeling you get everytime you rub that stone. Your secret source of inspiration

5. Read positive stuff and try to avoid the daily negativity of newspapers.

6. Smile at people! Even strangers sometime. I am not talking of smiling only at beautiful girls

7. Use your positive imagination!

You can use any method of above, see what works best for you and go for it!

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing

Share your Inspiring stories, you might make someone’s day!

This valentine day got me all charged up to write about love, so here it goes.

The emotion of love has been and would always be a mysterious emotion which every scientist or lover would be unable to define.

The best way to define is to just feel it and explore…

The types of love are created absolutely by the standards a person feels being in love.

Type 1: Seeking Love

Human beings always use social conditioning while approaching anything new. We are all socially programmed to seek true love.

Two people try to seek love in their surroundings, find each other, some butterflies run in the stomach and the chemistry seems to be the best. They fall in relationship to feel loved by the special one. The problem here is two people trying to seek love from the other. Both feel great love from each other during the start and everything seems to be perfect. But after sometime when both the people land on earth from the romantic ride from the moon, people discover lack of love. They see lack of love in the relationship, a power struggle starts where both wants to control the other, want to get more and more love from the other as they got during the start of the perfect relationship. There is no problem with anyone, but the reasons they fall in love was wrong. Trying to seek or get love from the other cannot be the base of a relationship. The control part of love comes in, the fear of loosing the other or unable to compromise factor comes in. This leads to one partner being the dominating, the other submitting or if they are conscious enough, they would leave the relationship. Or either one, dumping the other.

The feeling here is only of frustration, jealousy, desire to control and manipulate. Use of diplomacy and even dishonesty. A pure addiction to love.

Type 2: Infatuation

You just saw a babe and she’s the sexiest girl in the world, a striking beauty! Or you saw that handsome dude with the biggest attitude ever and a sexy build. The entire relationship is based on just sex. This type of relationship has the shortest life. The infatuation is the shortest lived emotion. As soon as the lust is over, so do the relationship. This relationship is not a problem if both parties agree to it, but it’s not true love.

The feeling here is only lust. Addiction to sex.

Type 3: Puppet Love

This is the type of love where a person is highly in love with the other, but the other isn’t. If they do get in a relationship somehow; it leads to a partner using the other emotionally, sexually, financially and every other way possible. The puppet partner has loosed the sense of his/her identity, the sense of purpose, the principles and the whole viewpoint of self. There is no sense of right and wrong for the puppet lover. The person has surrendered their life to the other. This usually happens due to low self-esteem and low confidence level of an individual. One partner is love seeker and the other is a comfort seeker.

The emotion felt by the puppet lover are of depression, low self-esteem, feeling worthless and a completely domesticated puppet.

The emotion felt by the controller are though good initially, may try to boost their self-esteem. But would always feel stuck and it would turn into resentment. They do have a comfortable corner, but one which they would hate to be in. The guilty feeling always takes over.

Type 4: The comfort Love

This relationship starts just for the sake of feeling of security of a relationship. These are the people who probably got hurt in past relationship or too scared to venture in the unknown mystery of love. Arranged marriages or relationships based as per perfect compatibility but lacking the passion of love and attraction. (I am not talking just about the physical attraction here ) They make the most comfortable relationships. Isn’t loving the one after you marry a safer option? To be frank, NO! It’s leaving the reigns of your relationship on luck. It’s like I don’t know how to choose my life partner so I better leave it to someone else or pure luck. Or probably I’ll select the one, my parents found for me. The one I selected just by looking a pic and the financial status. Some do it due to social conditioning. These people are soooooo scared of getting hurt, that they forgot the passion of love. They forgot what it is to get butterflies in stomach. For those who go in this relationship for fear of getting hurt, either forgot how wonderful every feeling of love is. Yes, you can get hurt, but it will help you grow and be a strong human being later. It would crush your heart to pieces, but it’s the only thing which would make it jump with the feeling of love. Love is the only thing which would make it expand beyond any limitations or reservedness you had. And those who go for the social conditioning, please open your mind up! This also includes people who are in a dead relationship, but fear to move on. Please remember, this world is filled with wonderful people all over.

The feeling here is though of comfort, they would always miss the passion of love. The most sacred feeling of completeness, the energy of love!

Type 5: Unconditional love

What is this? The day one recognizes it; it would be your biggest realization. It’s the same realization which prompted me to write this article. True love is where there is no expectation. The one where you don’t even expect the lover to be with you. There is no ego in the relationship. No sense of jealousy or even controlling the other. No fear of even loosing the other. How? True love is nothing else but pure love. It’s all about being happy for your partner’s happiness. Every smile you bring, every laughter you bring, makes you the happiest person on earth. This doesn’t make you leave your ethics and principle or sense of self. You love yourself, but there is so much love in ‘you’ that you want to share it with your partner. A complete abundance of love. The feeling removes jealousy and controlling behind because you don’t obsessively want the partner to be with you. There is no limit of love. You understand that even if your partner is with you or without you, you’re happy for them. This also doesn’t keep you attached to that single person after the relationship is broken, because you understand that love is an unlimited resource, an energy which has no end! It would also help you to leave old abusive, dead or one sided love because you understand there is no lack of love in this world. A true love always founds the right one. You remain so happy in the relationship, but even if it goes sour there is no feeling of regret, no feeling of loss because you love even yourself unconditionally. You always have your family and friends to support you. And the best thing you have is ‘you’. That one person that smiles at you in the mirror, the one that loves you unconditionally. In this love, you accept your partner as it is. You accept their strength and weakness; you don’t want to change them anyway. You encourage them to pursue their dreams and goals. You do everything to make your partner happy but yet don’t loose your sense of self. When this realization struck, it’s the most amazing one. You remain so happy for no reason at all. There is so much fun, that you would dislike the other old model of relationships. This makes the relationship so much fun and exciting. You give you’re partners happiness a priority but also yourself. This feeling brings the most amazing sense of security. Infact, this approach would even change the way you relate to others. You’ll be able to connect with everyone on a deeper level. The one based on honesty, love and acceptance. The feeling would grow out your relationship. It would completely change your mindset from scarcity to abundance. The feeling which makes you a source of energy, rather than an extractor. It would change the world around you. Positivity and the zest of life, makes you live the life with courage and with the passion of love.

The feeling here is full of passion, joy, fun and peace.

A relationship where two souls become ‘one’.

You would have seen more than one type of love in your relationship. We all have different phases and moods which make us dribble through these types. All we have to do is always strive to be on unconditional level. The one which empowers you and creates the abundance of love and joy.

Here’s a poem I wrote this valentine….

It’s called ‘Lover’, quite cheesy I know….

Nah! I don’t want to be your Lover,
I love to be your companion,
To share the deepest joys and sorrows with you,
To face every challenge with you together,
Nah! I don’t want to be your lover,
I love to be your friend to have pranks with,
To have cute fights over a piece of cake,
To share all the talks of our childhood dreams,
To listen to your talks, to walk in style forever,
Nah! I don’t want to be your lover,
I love to share the passion of love forever,
The deepest feelings two souls could ever reach,
To give my loyalty and unfold your deepest emotions,
To care so much, that I can feel your pain as mine,
To respect your strength and accept your weakness,
And Create perfect moments of joy, fun and peace forever,
Like never created in this world ever,
Nah! I don’t want to be just your lover,
Yes, I do want to be the most passionate lover…….

Hi, this is my first post at DhavalRaja.com, In this blog “Success for Everyone” I’ll be blogging about Increasing productivity, Goal Management, Deep Relationships, Spiritual growth and everything related to concious growth to the highest level possible.

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Dhaval